Sa tatlong araw ko sa isang conference. Napakadame kong ideya namaisulat. Pero tuwing magsusulat nako ng mga sulatin ukol sa isyu eh nahihirapan ako.
Paano ba sumulat ng may saysay?
Wednesday, October 24, 2012
ANYTHING UNDER THE SUN:Random thoughts
Sana pwede ibalik ang dati.
Pero anu nga ba ang dati?
Anu ang ibabalik?
Bakit kailangan ibalik?
Ngunit bakit nga ba nawala?
Nawala ba ng biglaan?
Nawala ng di sinasadya?
O nawala ito ng inaasahan?
Anu ang dahilan?
Anu ang babalikang dati?
Meron pa nga bang dati?
Dating masaya
Magulo
Makulit
May pakialam
Sana pwede ibalik ang dati.
Ang dating masaya.
Pero anu nga ba ang dati?
Anu ang ibabalik?
Bakit kailangan ibalik?
Ngunit bakit nga ba nawala?
Nawala ba ng biglaan?
Nawala ng di sinasadya?
O nawala ito ng inaasahan?
Anu ang dahilan?
Anu ang babalikang dati?
Meron pa nga bang dati?
Dating masaya
Magulo
Makulit
May pakialam
Sana pwede ibalik ang dati.
Ang dating masaya.
Thursday, October 11, 2012
ANYTHING UNDER THE SUN:Insecurity killed the cat
Dont tell me what to do.
Dont tell me what to say.
Dont tell me what to wear.
Dont tell me where to go.
Dont talk behind my back.
Dont misinterpret my actions.
Dont take away my friends.
Dont ever call me names.
Do look at yourself.
Do try to accept who you are.
Do recognize your goodness, but
Do affirm your flaws.
Cause underneath all those hatred.
We both know you feel like hell.
So be careful what you think, say, or do.
Remember, its curiosity that killed the cat..... But insecurity will kill you!
Dont tell me what to say.
Dont tell me what to wear.
Dont tell me where to go.
Dont talk behind my back.
Dont misinterpret my actions.
Dont take away my friends.
Dont ever call me names.
Do look at yourself.
Do try to accept who you are.
Do recognize your goodness, but
Do affirm your flaws.
Cause underneath all those hatred.
We both know you feel like hell.
So be careful what you think, say, or do.
Remember, its curiosity that killed the cat..... But insecurity will kill you!
Wednesday, October 10, 2012
ASK LOVE AND LIFE:Take two
Bakit ba nauso ang mga pelikula tungkol sa mga kabit? Parang nakakabother na dahil sunod sunod na. wala akong hilig manuod ng mga pelikula sa ganung tema, marahil kasi napagdaanan ko un kaya mejo sensitive ako sa mga istoryang ganun.
Nagsimula sa love story, no other woman, the mistress at ngaun nga ang bagong ilalabas na a secret affair.
Ndi ako KJ sa ganyang usapan. Ndi din ako naive dahil alam kong totoo namang nangyayare sa tunay na buhay un. Nababagabg lang ako na trending na ang topic. Na normal na lang siya, kumbaga nadedesensitize na ang mga tao sa kabit. Na kailangan mong ipaglaban ng literal ang pagmamahalk sa tao laban sa isa pang nagmamahal saknya. Idealistic nga siguro ako pero tingin ko walang takng deserving na gawing kabit. O pumayag magpakabit. Di ko kailanman naiintindihan ung ganun na maghahanap ka ng iba o mafafall ka sa iba habang asa relasyon ka. Marami akong spekulason o teorya kung bkt nagkakaganun. Andung insecure siya o di namana kaya ndi makuntento o takot sa commitment. Kung anuman ang dahilan, hindi nun majujustiy ang sakit na binibigay sa taong niloko.
Ndi ko mapipigilan ang media pelikula o mga libro na sumulat nito. Sigro isang hamon nalang ang magagawa ko.
Una hamon sa akin na ndi pumayag o ndi maging parte ng relasyong puno ng lokohan.
Pangalawa, sa mga taong in a relationship. Kung manlolokonlang mabuti pang mkipagbreak na. Maging matapang sabihin kung anu ang gusto, na maaaring ibang tao.
Pangatlo, sa magulang. Sana mapatnubayan mabuti ang mga kabtaan.
Pangapat, sa mga journalist, writet, director, sana ay makahanap tayo ng iba pang kwento, iba naman. Ung nakakachallenge ng utak. Yung tatak pinoy. Minsan kasi nagpapaimpluwensiya tayo masyado sa mga western o korean movies kaya nagiging ganoon din timpla ng kwento naten.
Panlima, sayo na nagbabasa nito. Huwag pumayag na maloko o manloko. Wag gawin normal ang pagtigin sa kabit o panloloko. Walang taong worth ng panloloko.
Okay, cut. Take two!
Nagsimula sa love story, no other woman, the mistress at ngaun nga ang bagong ilalabas na a secret affair.
Ndi ako KJ sa ganyang usapan. Ndi din ako naive dahil alam kong totoo namang nangyayare sa tunay na buhay un. Nababagabg lang ako na trending na ang topic. Na normal na lang siya, kumbaga nadedesensitize na ang mga tao sa kabit. Na kailangan mong ipaglaban ng literal ang pagmamahalk sa tao laban sa isa pang nagmamahal saknya. Idealistic nga siguro ako pero tingin ko walang takng deserving na gawing kabit. O pumayag magpakabit. Di ko kailanman naiintindihan ung ganun na maghahanap ka ng iba o mafafall ka sa iba habang asa relasyon ka. Marami akong spekulason o teorya kung bkt nagkakaganun. Andung insecure siya o di namana kaya ndi makuntento o takot sa commitment. Kung anuman ang dahilan, hindi nun majujustiy ang sakit na binibigay sa taong niloko.
Ndi ko mapipigilan ang media pelikula o mga libro na sumulat nito. Sigro isang hamon nalang ang magagawa ko.
Una hamon sa akin na ndi pumayag o ndi maging parte ng relasyong puno ng lokohan.
Pangalawa, sa mga taong in a relationship. Kung manlolokonlang mabuti pang mkipagbreak na. Maging matapang sabihin kung anu ang gusto, na maaaring ibang tao.
Pangatlo, sa magulang. Sana mapatnubayan mabuti ang mga kabtaan.
Pangapat, sa mga journalist, writet, director, sana ay makahanap tayo ng iba pang kwento, iba naman. Ung nakakachallenge ng utak. Yung tatak pinoy. Minsan kasi nagpapaimpluwensiya tayo masyado sa mga western o korean movies kaya nagiging ganoon din timpla ng kwento naten.
Panlima, sayo na nagbabasa nito. Huwag pumayag na maloko o manloko. Wag gawin normal ang pagtigin sa kabit o panloloko. Walang taong worth ng panloloko.
Okay, cut. Take two!
Sunday, July 8, 2012
TEACHER'S TALE:Of Certain Truths and Uncertainties
its eleven in the evening and i just finished checking exam papers of my students. i finished really fast and nto considering the grades my student got, i felt sad. hence, this blog.
there are truths and uncertainties that have been lingering in my mind for almost six months now. it started early part of the month, january to be exact. the day i knew i had to face truths and uncertainties.
truth #1. i only have two months and im gone.
ive talked about this truth to so many people too many times. to the point that i bored myself thinking and talking about it. this is my last term of teaching and though i knew of it six months ago, it still doesnt feel right.
truth #2. i have accepted but not without pain.
for the first few months that i ve learned of truth #1, all i felt was pain. pain of losing the one thing i loved doing. pain of not being able to be with the people i have grown with. people i learned a lot from. People who have accepted me, inside and out. People i have considered family.
i also felt pain that i would not be able to teach students again in CSB. the pain that just at the time that i knew i meant something to some students is the time i have to go.
Pain knowing this was all my fault.
i have accepted but it is just too painful.
Truth #3. i am scared.
for the past months, i have not been able to fully admit to myself that i am scared.
scared that i might not be able to accomplish the last task i need to do.
scared that i might not find a job thats both enjoyable and fulfilling.
scared that i might not meet people as fun as the people i have now.
scared that i might be too old.
scared that all the plans i have for the next months may not come thru at all.
i have been face with these truths but more overwhelming are the uncertainties. I have no idea what my future holds for me. I worry myself for most of the nights im alone that i experience dreaming about zombies caused by stress. for 6 years i have never faced this enormous uncertainty in my life up until now.
Uncertainty #1. Where will i be after August.
ive been planning. plans always bring uncertainties.
what if these plans fail me, how do i pick myself up again? How do i tell people? What do i tell them? more than the uncertain plans, what worries me more is my embarrassment.
Disclaimer: dont confuse this to my being coward or mahina ang loob. what i feel now is different.
uncertainty #2. will i ever finish?
Will I finish, will i even be able to stand up again and pick where i left of in my studies? How do i deal with it now that i dont have the support group i had in the first part?
If i do finish, where will it lead me?
Uncertainty #3: What does this mean? IS there any reason or purpose for this happening in my life?
I have always believe in purpose. that somewhere in this universe someone has a big plan for me. That this is all part of the plan. I believe that all things happen because it is meant to happen.
But this time, i cannot fully put my trust on this belief. Is this really where im supposed to be, to leave the job i am passionate about, to leave the people i love so much, to be alone?
Until August, I am the same person 6 years ago. A teacher.
after that i am lost.
Tuesday, July 3, 2012
MEMOIRS OF A BLOGGER:Diksyunaryo
Ang diksyunaryo ay ginagamit pag may salita kang hindi naintindihan. Ito ang ginagamit para mahanap ang kahulugan ng isang salita, ibig sabihin ung para magka sense ang isang pangungusap. Madalas ginagamitan naten ng context clues ang mga bagay bagay. Yung kahit ndi mo alam ung salita eh naiintindihan mo ang ibig nitong sabihin sa pamamagitan ng paraan ng pagkakagamit nito. Pero mas mahusay pa din ang makuha ang kahulugan ng salita sa pinaka tamang ibig sabihin nito.
Di naman tungkol sa diksyunaryo ito, ito ay tungkol sa kahulugan ng buhay. (wow, lalim). Ang ibig ko lang naman sabihin talaga eh dapat lahat ng ginagawa naten eh may malalim na kahulugan. Kahit anu pang gawain yan. Kasi pag may kahulugan ang bawat bagay mas may ownership, mas may laman ung ginagawa mo. Isa rin un sa tutulong sayo na bigyan ng kahulugan ang pagkatao mo.
Sa sarili kong karanasan, ginagawa ko ang mga bagay ng may dahilan, o may kahulugan. Lahat halos eh may kwento, may pinanggalingan kaya mas malalim ang pagtingin ko sa bagay na ginawa, ginagawa, o gagawin ko. Halimbawa, naglista ako ng 101 things to do in my life ko. Hindi dahil sa nakiuso ako o napanuod ko ung bucketlist na movie. Nauna sila bago ko pa to gawin. Ndi ko rin naman orihinal na ideya ang "101 Things to Do in my Life" dahil nabasa ko lang din siya sa isang module na ginagamit namen para sa klase. Pinagawa ko ito sa mga estudyante ko konektado sa aralin namen on Goal Setting. Pinagawa ko sa kanila ng hindi ko pa siya nagawa. Naisip ko tuloy na tuwing nagsasabe sila saken ng kung ganu kahirap ito eh, dapat pala ginawa ko din para alam ko ung pakiramdam. (Light bulb) At yun na ang dahilan kung bakit ko sinulat yun. Una, para maintindihan ko ung naranasan ng mga estudyante ko at pangalawa dahil marami naman talaga ako gustong gawin sa buhay pero ndi ko sinisimulan. Ganun nga ang ginawa ko at ngayon, halos isang taon na eh masasabi kong marami akong natutupad sa checklist ko.
May laman. May kahulugan.
Ang kahulugan nito saken ay mas nakilala ko ang sarili. Nalaman kong ndi pala ako well-read na tao dahil andame ko pang namimiss out sa buhay. Dahil dun mas naging palabasa ako, at binibigyan ko ito ng oras. Nalaman ko din na hilig ko talaga ang pagtatrabel at kung anuman ay alam kong un ang isa sa mga bagay na nding ndi mawawal sa listahan ko.
Lahat ng nakasulat sa listahan ko ay may malalim na pingagalingan. Ang ilan sa mga ito magdidikta ng aking kinabukasan, ng career na gusto kong puntahan. Ilan din dito ay nagpapaalala sa akin ng aking kabataan tulad ng pagluto ng monggo at pagbisita sa aking lola. Mayroon din namang ilan sa mga nakalista na susubok sa aking tapang at pagkatao. May mga ilan namang para sa aking kasiyahan, tulad ng pag-aalaga ng isda at pagpapaayos ng bahay.
Lahat ng ginagaw ko ay may kahulugan. Kung kaya't nagiging masakit para saken na may isa sa mga ito na matapakan, magaya, o maiwalang bahala.
sentimental ako na tao. respetuhin sana ito.
Diksyunaryo. may laman. may kahulugan.
Di naman tungkol sa diksyunaryo ito, ito ay tungkol sa kahulugan ng buhay. (wow, lalim). Ang ibig ko lang naman sabihin talaga eh dapat lahat ng ginagawa naten eh may malalim na kahulugan. Kahit anu pang gawain yan. Kasi pag may kahulugan ang bawat bagay mas may ownership, mas may laman ung ginagawa mo. Isa rin un sa tutulong sayo na bigyan ng kahulugan ang pagkatao mo.
Sa sarili kong karanasan, ginagawa ko ang mga bagay ng may dahilan, o may kahulugan. Lahat halos eh may kwento, may pinanggalingan kaya mas malalim ang pagtingin ko sa bagay na ginawa, ginagawa, o gagawin ko. Halimbawa, naglista ako ng 101 things to do in my life ko. Hindi dahil sa nakiuso ako o napanuod ko ung bucketlist na movie. Nauna sila bago ko pa to gawin. Ndi ko rin naman orihinal na ideya ang "101 Things to Do in my Life" dahil nabasa ko lang din siya sa isang module na ginagamit namen para sa klase. Pinagawa ko ito sa mga estudyante ko konektado sa aralin namen on Goal Setting. Pinagawa ko sa kanila ng hindi ko pa siya nagawa. Naisip ko tuloy na tuwing nagsasabe sila saken ng kung ganu kahirap ito eh, dapat pala ginawa ko din para alam ko ung pakiramdam. (Light bulb) At yun na ang dahilan kung bakit ko sinulat yun. Una, para maintindihan ko ung naranasan ng mga estudyante ko at pangalawa dahil marami naman talaga ako gustong gawin sa buhay pero ndi ko sinisimulan. Ganun nga ang ginawa ko at ngayon, halos isang taon na eh masasabi kong marami akong natutupad sa checklist ko.
May laman. May kahulugan.
Ang kahulugan nito saken ay mas nakilala ko ang sarili. Nalaman kong ndi pala ako well-read na tao dahil andame ko pang namimiss out sa buhay. Dahil dun mas naging palabasa ako, at binibigyan ko ito ng oras. Nalaman ko din na hilig ko talaga ang pagtatrabel at kung anuman ay alam kong un ang isa sa mga bagay na nding ndi mawawal sa listahan ko.
Lahat ng nakasulat sa listahan ko ay may malalim na pingagalingan. Ang ilan sa mga ito magdidikta ng aking kinabukasan, ng career na gusto kong puntahan. Ilan din dito ay nagpapaalala sa akin ng aking kabataan tulad ng pagluto ng monggo at pagbisita sa aking lola. Mayroon din namang ilan sa mga nakalista na susubok sa aking tapang at pagkatao. May mga ilan namang para sa aking kasiyahan, tulad ng pag-aalaga ng isda at pagpapaayos ng bahay.
Lahat ng ginagaw ko ay may kahulugan. Kung kaya't nagiging masakit para saken na may isa sa mga ito na matapakan, magaya, o maiwalang bahala.
sentimental ako na tao. respetuhin sana ito.
Diksyunaryo. may laman. may kahulugan.
Tuesday, June 5, 2012
ASK LOVE AND LIFE: Let the ship sail!
Hindi ito tungkol sa usapin ng barko o anumang related sa "ships". Wala naman akong alam dun. Pero nakonek ko lang ito sa isang bagay na naisip ko bigla habang nakapila sa Crocs mega sale noong isang linggo.
Natweet ko nga ito at ang sabe ko pa dun, "Huwag nang uma-anchor, let the ship sail!" (Siguro nalilito ka na kung anu ba talaga to noh?)
Eh usapang pag momove-on naman to. Naisip ko lang kasi na ang pagmove on ay proseso na pinagdadaanan ng dalawang tao. Pero madalas laging ung hiniwalayan lang ang nabibigyan ng mas madameng "exposure". Madame na nga din akong nasulat at nabasa tungkol sa kung paano makakapagmove on ang isang tao sa mahal nila.
Pero ung pag momove on eh kelangan din maintindihan ng nakipaghiwalay o nakipagfriendzone. (kasama un eh. refer to my previous post.) Bakit? Kasi ang badtrip sa proseso ng pagmomove on eh ung andun ka na biglang susulpot ulit ung taong un. Magpaparamdam ulit kung kelan nakikita mo na ung pag galaw ng "bangka" mo. So dahil asa process of moving on ka pa, eh agad agad ka namang mapapahinto. Un ang tinatawag kong pag-aanchor. Ito ung sitwasyon na magpaparamdam ulit sayo ung tao. Magpapakasweet or mangungulit o anuman para bumalik sa buhay mo. Minsan magtetext lang ng "kamusta? okay ka ba?" etc. na parang biglang concern na siya sa well being mo after dumping you. So ikaw naman si gaga/gago na magrereply agad kasi kinamusta ka nya. Andun na tayo syempre may feelings ka pa kaya ndi kita masisisi kung un ang gagawin mo.
Kaya nga ba't kung anchor ka, in tagalog daw ANGKLA, eh tingin ko tigilan mo na yan. Make up your mind. Pag sinabe mong ayaw mo, stick to it. Hindi ung pag nakaramdam ka na na yung tao eh nakakapagmove on na sayo eh saka ka naman babalik at magpapacute ulit sakanya. O ndi naman pag kelangan mong ifeed ang ego mo eh babalikan mo ung tao (without offering any relationship) para lang masabe na pogi/maganda ka. Huwag ka din magtext o mangamusta kung anu nang nangyayare saknya, kasi kung ndi ka ba naman talaga sadista malamang ndi pa siya okay (lalo na't bago palang). Makikipagbreak ka tapos tatanungin mo kung kamusta?!
Ganun din naman kung makarating sayo ung balitang may natitipuhan na siya. Huwag kang magfeeling na forever ang feelings sayo ng tao. Hindi lang ikaw ang pwede nyang gawing DYOSA o ADONIS. Maraming tao sa mundo maliban sayo. At higit sa lahat ang feelings eh nakakalimutan o sabihin na nateng nagbabago. Kung ndi mo magets ung realidad na yun eh kelangan mong may sumampal sayo at sabihin na nakapagmove on na nga ung tao sayo.
Ang ibig ko lang naman sabihin eh wag kang mang-angkla ng taong may gusto sayo just to fulfill your personal satisfaction like sexual, ego or pride. Napaka-unfair to still expect the person to be under your spell without wanting to be in a relationship with them. Im sure kaya naman nakipagbreak o nasa friend zone ung taong un dahil wala ka talagang nararamdaman para sakanya. Kung ganun lang din hayaan mo ung tao na makahanap ng kapareha ng puso nya. Kung sa proseso eh ikaw ang maiwan magisa, tanggapin mo yun kasi un ang desisyon mo.
So, let the ship sail!:P
Natweet ko nga ito at ang sabe ko pa dun, "Huwag nang uma-anchor, let the ship sail!" (Siguro nalilito ka na kung anu ba talaga to noh?)
Eh usapang pag momove-on naman to. Naisip ko lang kasi na ang pagmove on ay proseso na pinagdadaanan ng dalawang tao. Pero madalas laging ung hiniwalayan lang ang nabibigyan ng mas madameng "exposure". Madame na nga din akong nasulat at nabasa tungkol sa kung paano makakapagmove on ang isang tao sa mahal nila.
Pero ung pag momove on eh kelangan din maintindihan ng nakipaghiwalay o nakipagfriendzone. (kasama un eh. refer to my previous post.) Bakit? Kasi ang badtrip sa proseso ng pagmomove on eh ung andun ka na biglang susulpot ulit ung taong un. Magpaparamdam ulit kung kelan nakikita mo na ung pag galaw ng "bangka" mo. So dahil asa process of moving on ka pa, eh agad agad ka namang mapapahinto. Un ang tinatawag kong pag-aanchor. Ito ung sitwasyon na magpaparamdam ulit sayo ung tao. Magpapakasweet or mangungulit o anuman para bumalik sa buhay mo. Minsan magtetext lang ng "kamusta? okay ka ba?" etc. na parang biglang concern na siya sa well being mo after dumping you. So ikaw naman si gaga/gago na magrereply agad kasi kinamusta ka nya. Andun na tayo syempre may feelings ka pa kaya ndi kita masisisi kung un ang gagawin mo.
Kaya nga ba't kung anchor ka, in tagalog daw ANGKLA, eh tingin ko tigilan mo na yan. Make up your mind. Pag sinabe mong ayaw mo, stick to it. Hindi ung pag nakaramdam ka na na yung tao eh nakakapagmove on na sayo eh saka ka naman babalik at magpapacute ulit sakanya. O ndi naman pag kelangan mong ifeed ang ego mo eh babalikan mo ung tao (without offering any relationship) para lang masabe na pogi/maganda ka. Huwag ka din magtext o mangamusta kung anu nang nangyayare saknya, kasi kung ndi ka ba naman talaga sadista malamang ndi pa siya okay (lalo na't bago palang). Makikipagbreak ka tapos tatanungin mo kung kamusta?!
Ganun din naman kung makarating sayo ung balitang may natitipuhan na siya. Huwag kang magfeeling na forever ang feelings sayo ng tao. Hindi lang ikaw ang pwede nyang gawing DYOSA o ADONIS. Maraming tao sa mundo maliban sayo. At higit sa lahat ang feelings eh nakakalimutan o sabihin na nateng nagbabago. Kung ndi mo magets ung realidad na yun eh kelangan mong may sumampal sayo at sabihin na nakapagmove on na nga ung tao sayo.
Ang ibig ko lang naman sabihin eh wag kang mang-angkla ng taong may gusto sayo just to fulfill your personal satisfaction like sexual, ego or pride. Napaka-unfair to still expect the person to be under your spell without wanting to be in a relationship with them. Im sure kaya naman nakipagbreak o nasa friend zone ung taong un dahil wala ka talagang nararamdaman para sakanya. Kung ganun lang din hayaan mo ung tao na makahanap ng kapareha ng puso nya. Kung sa proseso eh ikaw ang maiwan magisa, tanggapin mo yun kasi un ang desisyon mo.
So, let the ship sail!:P
Sunday, April 22, 2012
ASL LOVE AND LIFE: Friend zone 101
Hindi ito ang unang blog ko tungkol sa friend zone, may nauna na pero hanggang ngayon eh nakasulat pa din siya sa papel at hindi ko pa maitype. Naisulat ko ito dahil sa isang kakatapos lang nameng usapan ng isang kaibigan. Siguro nga at medyo uso na ang friend zone na konsepto kaya medyo madame na rin ang nakakagamit. Pero anu nga ba ang rules of engagement ng Friend zone? So ito ang ilan sa tingin kong ettiquette pagdating sa friendzone.
Kung ikaw ang nang friend zone:
1. Siguraduhin ang nararamdaman. Hindi naman masama ang itry mo, sumama ka sa dates, etc. para masabi mo na binigyan mo siya ng chance para makilala. Pero madalas kasi pag walang spark o kuryente sa una palang na pagkikita eh wala talaga. Kaya nga importanteng siguraduhin mong walang kuryente bago ka magdecide na pang friend zone siya/
2. If that’s your final answer then make it clear. Sabihin mo dun sa tao na wala kang nararamdaman para sa kanya. Para malinaw sa inyong dalawa.
3. Don’t offer friendship. Ang opinion ko ditto eh may pagka selfish siya. Magooffer ka ng friendship when you know that the other person feels something for you that’s more than friendship. Sabe nga ng kaibigan ko, ang pagoffer ng friendship ay pagtanggal ng guilt feeling. Na alam mo kasing nasaktan yung tao so the least you can do is give him/her friendship.
4. Be consistent. Pag sinabi mong friend zone, FRIENDZONE!. Ibig sabihin nun wag mong gagawin ung gagawin mo sa mga taong gusto mo. Gusto meaning you are considering a person to be in a relationship. Anu ba ung mga activities na un? Magtext buong araw na may kasamang kumain ka na ba? Kamusta ka? Good morning,, good evening good night sweet dreams, etc. Nakakagulo ng utak ang mga ganung Gawain. Di mo malaman kung friendzone na ba talaga o pakipot lang. KAwawa ung tao pag ganun.
5. Don’t invest time. Kasama nang pagiging consistent and pagkeep ng distance between you and the other person. Ang taong may gusto sayo mag bibigay ng time makachat, makasama, Makita ka lang. hindi man ikaw ang nagiinvest ng time eh malamang ung isang tao ung nagiinvest sayo. In the end wala din pala.
6. Keep distance amigo. Distance will help the person move of from you. Kahit pa sabihing hindi nagging kayo eh nagkaron sya ng feelings for you. Pag sinabeng keep distance dapat wala din munang communication. Kasi kung ndi ka nga nya nakikita pero nakakausap ka naman nya ganun din yun. Wala rin ung distance if there is communication.
7. Be fair. Kung wala ka talagang nararamdaman, maging patas ka naman. In short, wag kang pafall. Don’t be nice to the person kung ndi mo naman kayang ibigay sa kanya ang gusto nya. Bigyan mo siya ng pagkakataong makalimutan ang nararamdaman nya para sayo at hayaang makakita ng ibang para sakanya.
Kung ikaw naman ang nafriend zone, ilang tips lang para sayo:
1. Grieve. Ramdamin mo ang sakit na nafriendzone ka. Masakit naman talaga ung ganun noh. Realidad yun, don’t deny, aminin sa sarili na nasaktan ka. Sabe nga sa Tuesday with Morrie, Feel the emotions, but after you feel it, stop and move on from it.
2. Then, move on. Proseso ang pagmomove on, ndi magiging madali pero ganun ang buhay. Ndi naman lahat ng gusto mo magkakagusto sayo, pero ndi ibig sabihin eh hindi ka na pwedeng magustuhan.
3. Huwag magpilit. Madalas pag nafriend zone ka na, eh ibig sabihin FRIEND ka nya LANG talaga. Walang kahit na anong romantic feeling o kuryenteng nararamdaman ung tao para sayo. So kahit ioffer mo pa ang sarili mo sakanya walang epek un kasi FRIEND nga eh.
4. Be fair. Huwag ilabas ang galit sa taong ndi ka talaga kayang mahalin. Ganun talaga eh, ndi mali ang nararamdaman mo tulad ng ndi rin mali ang nararamdaman nya. So maging patas ka din.
5. Huwag munang manghingi ng friendship. Bakit? Kasi ndi mo pa kaya yan, mahal mo nga eh, pinapantasya mo ngang maging kayo tapos kakaibiganin mo. Lahat ng bagay na gagawin nya eh may ibig sabihin sayo, pero sakanya wala. Kaya nga ba, bigyan mo din ng space ang sarili mo. Huwag kang humingi ng ndi mo kakayanin. Ang pagkakaibigan darating kung talagang meant.
6. Magpaganda o magpagwapo. Hindi para magsisi siya nan di ka nya pinili pero para sa sarili mo. When you feel good about yourself it will show and people will feel it. The love you give yourself makes other people feel that love.
7. Everyone has a paired heart. Sabe nga kung talagang itinalaga ka na magpakasal eh mangyayare un. Hindi sa panahon mo kundi sa panahon ng Diyos.
Ang rule lang naman talaga ata eh respeto. Respeto sa nararamdaman ninyong dalawa. Ndi man pareho ndi man magkatugma pero un ang katotohanan. MAhirap ipilit ang nararamdaman, mas mahirap kung papasok sa relasyong ndi naman makatotohanan. In the end, two or more hearts will break kung ndi naten kayang respetuhin ang isat isa.
Monday, April 9, 2012
ANYTHING UNDER THE SUN:Childhood dreams do come true
One of my childhood dreams has finally come true.:)
***To have a pet Chow Chow.***
Friday, March 23, 2012
TEACHER'S TALE: Titser titseran!
Mga natitirang araw ko sa pagiging titser. Nabibilang man ang araw na gagawin ko ang isa sa mga pinakamasaya ako, nagpapasalamt ako sa mga panahon na andito ako. Mamimiss ko ang bawag estudyante, mga papel, mga kasama sa trabaho, bakasyon engrande, ang pagkakataong makapagturo sa mga kabataang magiging kinabukasan ng bayan. Anut anuman, umalis man ako, habambuhay akong isang guro.
Thursday, March 22, 2012
TRAVEL MARVEL:That bookiship!:)
That one fine day when you know you will not be able to sleep if you dont see this one thing! That is what i felt with mv logos hope!;). With dependable and equally excited friends visiting and should i say shopping in the ship was funtastic. The entrance fee was only p20 and kids get in free.
Monday, March 12, 2012
ANYTHING UNDER THE SUN:Facts About Me
1. I like Enid Blyton. I got a Top Library Borrower in my third grade because I loved reading her books. Its because of her I got a very wold imagination. I believed in pixies, fairies, and toys coming alive. Now, I want a collection of my book to read to my future children.
2. I watch Lifestyle Network when I was in grade schools. I remember giving a craft card to one of my friends after watching it on tv. I wasnt interested in their cooking shows though.
3. I learned ballet in grade 3, taekwondo in grade 6, and swimming in high school. I competed for one swimming competition, with a kickboard, competed once in Taekwondo and never again, played during our ballet classes.
4. I learned playing the organ when I was in grade 1, but my teacher said my hands were too little I couldnt reach the keyboards. I also tried the guitar but it was too painful on my fingers.
5. I get obsessed with movies I watch that I end up researching about them. One is about Identity, which is abut multiple identity disorder that led one man to manslaughter people in a bar. The other is Sweeney Todd, which turned out to be true for some countries.
6. I was very thrifty when I was kid. I use to save the money given to me by walking to my swimming classes instead of riding the orange shuttle. I always kept a coin bank (a tweety coin bank) for all my savings. I was able to spend on things and went on different places because of this habit.
7. I liked the Hansons and the Nsyns when I was little. I also used to impersonate boy bands and girl bands.
8. I also impersonated Nora Aunor and Bisaya accent when I was in college.
9. I used to love old school, romantic songs when i was in grade school. I also had a songbook to write lyrics I wanted to memorize.
10. When I was in grade school, i would always listen to Don Moen in the morning. I also thought i wanted to become a nun during those days.
11. My ate and I composed a song about the environment and recorded it.
12. My grade school friend and I joined a dance contest with the song ragamuffin girl. My ate also joined with the song the bomb. We lost.:)
13. Ive kept a journal since high school until last three years ago. Now i use a planner:)
14. I love scrapbooking, cutting, pasting, and photos.
15. I learned to ride a bike using Mang Brendo's bike.
16. I was awkward, insecure, and confused in grade school.
17. I had a bestfriend in grade 3 namely Joan Rivera. Had special friends in grade two namely Ethen Mangali, Yedda MArcos and Kathleen (i forgot the name sorry)
18. I started putting on make up when I was in 2nd year college, learned it in New York, practiced putting it when I was working, found its wonders last year. Now Im an addict:)
19. I know how to shoot basketballs.
20. I know how to surf, to skim, to longboard but never got the chance to be good at it.
21. Jak of all trades, Master of None.
2. I watch Lifestyle Network when I was in grade schools. I remember giving a craft card to one of my friends after watching it on tv. I wasnt interested in their cooking shows though.
3. I learned ballet in grade 3, taekwondo in grade 6, and swimming in high school. I competed for one swimming competition, with a kickboard, competed once in Taekwondo and never again, played during our ballet classes.
4. I learned playing the organ when I was in grade 1, but my teacher said my hands were too little I couldnt reach the keyboards. I also tried the guitar but it was too painful on my fingers.
5. I get obsessed with movies I watch that I end up researching about them. One is about Identity, which is abut multiple identity disorder that led one man to manslaughter people in a bar. The other is Sweeney Todd, which turned out to be true for some countries.
6. I was very thrifty when I was kid. I use to save the money given to me by walking to my swimming classes instead of riding the orange shuttle. I always kept a coin bank (a tweety coin bank) for all my savings. I was able to spend on things and went on different places because of this habit.
7. I liked the Hansons and the Nsyns when I was little. I also used to impersonate boy bands and girl bands.
8. I also impersonated Nora Aunor and Bisaya accent when I was in college.
9. I used to love old school, romantic songs when i was in grade school. I also had a songbook to write lyrics I wanted to memorize.
10. When I was in grade school, i would always listen to Don Moen in the morning. I also thought i wanted to become a nun during those days.
11. My ate and I composed a song about the environment and recorded it.
12. My grade school friend and I joined a dance contest with the song ragamuffin girl. My ate also joined with the song the bomb. We lost.:)
13. Ive kept a journal since high school until last three years ago. Now i use a planner:)
14. I love scrapbooking, cutting, pasting, and photos.
15. I learned to ride a bike using Mang Brendo's bike.
16. I was awkward, insecure, and confused in grade school.
17. I had a bestfriend in grade 3 namely Joan Rivera. Had special friends in grade two namely Ethen Mangali, Yedda MArcos and Kathleen (i forgot the name sorry)
18. I started putting on make up when I was in 2nd year college, learned it in New York, practiced putting it when I was working, found its wonders last year. Now Im an addict:)
19. I know how to shoot basketballs.
20. I know how to surf, to skim, to longboard but never got the chance to be good at it.
21. Jak of all trades, Master of None.
Monday, February 27, 2012
ASK LOVE AND LIFE:Date a Boy who's Cheesy
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| Ethel Tacorda |
haha!sa magkabilang dulo ng parte ng manla,meron p lng parehong tao n nsasaktan d mn mgkaprehong sitwasyon at ngayon sila n p lang ang mgkasama at mgbi2gay ng tunay saya sa isat isa...salamat nakilala kita...
******Sent 950pm in Facebook chat. In reply to the article Date a Girl who Travels, and Date a Girl who Reads. I think its also equally important to note how men can be cheesy at times without being eecky. So date a man who is cheesy, but not over the top cheesy. He says the right things at the right time. There are times that this boy will make you squirm at the thought of the cheesylines he says but deep down you know it tickled a part of your heart.
Date a man who is cheesy, he means what he says because you feel it. The words does not have to high-falluting, cause the simplest words can have the deepest meanings.
Date a man who is cheesy, maybe not all the time, maybe not personally, but when he say it in person its as if he is shy to say it because he will become vulnerable. Cheesy lines are their kryptonite. When they say it it makes them weak. Being weak in front a girl is being strong.
Date a man who is cheesy, you dont need to bring them to expensive restaurants or give them expensive gifts. Just smile the sweetest smiles and every cheesy lines becomes worth it.
You are my cheesy-iest line ever. Thanks for being my favorite line!:)
FACE TALK: The Primer/No Makeup Makeup Look
I did a primer make up look last Friday, and I thought its one of those looks worth posting to show my make up learning from all the workshop and readings Ive been doing for the past months. Im no Pro in make ups but I really enjoying putting it on and trying it out on some of my friends, (when I mean some, I mean just one person).
So here goes, my first primer/no make up make up look:
What I used:
1. Facial Cleanser: I used NIVEA White
2. Tone: Im a fan of Nivea so, I use the same brand
3. Liquid Foundation: Ever Bilena Oriental. For everyday use I prefer this brand as its inexpensive and covers really well. I usually use my fingers to blend it in but realized a triangle sponge could also do the trick. Remember to always wash your hands and make up applicators to avoid having pimples.
3. Loose powder: Fashion 21 Natural. With a powder brush, dusk excess powder first and use it all over the face. It seals the foundation which makes it oil and shine free.
4. Eyebrow: In2it eyebrow kit, medium brown.The eyebrows shape your face, and its very crucial that you keep it clean and with color. Its the easiest way to look young. You dont want to look like Mona Lisa, right?
5. Eyeshadow: Avon Neutral Shade. I am a fan of the brown shades as it is very easy to match with any color of attire and its the best color to look natural. I did the 3 color shadow technique with a little contour on the eye.
6. Eyeliner: 711 eyeliner. (yes, 711 offers different cool and cheap make ups) Make sure that you apply it really near the eyelashes. After, its good to apply a powder shadow on it to keep it from smudging. I dont usually put eyeliner on the lower eyelids cause its really hot here in the Philippines so it smudges. (Ill try to learn how to be able to smudge proof it.)
7. Blush on. Avon cheek tint. I put on a very light blush so I would still have a tint of blush but does not overpower the primer look.
8. Lipstick: Careline. I use my fingers to dab on my lipstick so it would look natural. I also tap it with loose powder, (very lightly) to keep it stick.
9. Bring in the CONFIDENCE. The confidence makes any make up look stunning, well, some of it!:)
10. I didnt put mascara as I dont have it with me during that time:)
My Oh-So Trying Hard Travel Blog at TravBuddy
My first entry is for Palm Beach Resort in San Juan, Batangas. Have fun reading. Its actually my first review. Looking forward to more reviews.:)
Tuesday, February 7, 2012
TEACHER'S TALE:ERRATUM: The Green Project 7
I changed the title of my previous post into
The Green Project 7
instead of The Green Project 74.
Why the change?
Well... I realized 74 days is too much to carry for my students and it seems unrealistic as I know how busy my students are with studies, or work, or just plain living their lives. So there, 74 changed to 7 meaning the number of weeks before our final grading. Most of my students already submitted their works, so far Im okay with what they did. Some even surprised me with their works:)
This is gonna be exciting:)
Wednesday, February 1, 2012
TEACHER'S TALE: IDEA: Green Project 74
While drinking coffee, checking students' papers, facebooking and texting. A seemingly great idea came to mind. GREEN PROJECT 74 Its actually not a personal project but a project for my students this term. Im teaching a "College 101" course this term, and I find it irrelevant to give written exams. WHY? well, first I dont think I can assess their learning in class through multiple choices or essay exams. So, it came to this,
THE GREEN PROJECT 74
So what is it? The title is actually a code.
GREEN: La Salle and Benilde color
PROJECT: As it is a requirement in the subject
74: Days till course card day
Instructions: Its really simple. For the next 74 days starting tomorrow my students would make their own blog but with the same title The Green Project 74 by (insert name of student). Their blog will consist of different experiences they would have in CSB. (Just a little background: Most of my students are transferees from other schools, in their 2nd degrees, returning students, etc.. Most of them are also ARTS STUDENTS. Which makes this idea a lot exciting.) So anyway, for each week I will give them specific themes that they would have to incorporate in their blogs. I would require minimum of 2 blog entries for the week. They could include pictures, essays, poems, or anything they would want to include as long as it would show their experience with the school and answer the given theme of the week.
This is really exciting for me and I hope my students would like it too:)